Dear Wedding Diplomat: Too many guests RSVP’d for our destination wedding. What can we do?
Dear Wedding Diplomat,
My fiancé and I are having a destination wedding in Cancún in April. We reserved a villa for 40 guests but sent out 60 invites, assuming at least 20 people—acquaintances, second cousins and the like—would decline. We were shocked when we counted the RSVPs and realized we had 66 people, including partners and kids. The rest of the resort is booked. Should we tell them about the room shortage and hope they back out?
—RSVPeeved, Roncesvalles
Sending out half-hearted invites was your first mistake. Passive-aggressively floating the hotel shortage and hoping your guests get the hint would be your second. You should have known that any vitamin D–deprived Torontonian with disposable income would seize the opportunity to escape the city’s 50 shades of winter grey. An invite is a contract between a guest and a host that should be honoured once the RSVPs are in the mail. It’s your responsibility to find alternative accommodations at a nearby resort, and to send the link to your B-list guests. Once you’re all down there, arrange for transportation between the two spots, so no one feels like a wedding exile. Then, toss back a few umbrella drinks and enjoy the matrimonial mariachi band.
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Dear Wedding Diplomat,
My fiancé and I are having a destination wedding in Cancún in April. We reserved a villa for 40 guests but sent out 60 invites, assuming at least 20 people—acquaintances, second cousins and the like—would decline. We were shocked when we counted the RSVPs and realized we had 66 people, including partners and kids. The rest of the resort is booked. Should we tell them about the room shortage and hope they back out?
—RSVPeeved, Roncesvalles
Sending out half-hearted invites was your first mistake. Passive-aggressively floating the hotel shortage and hoping your guests get the hint would be your second. You should have known that any vitamin D–deprived Torontonian with disposable income would seize the opportunity to escape the city’s 50 shades of winter grey. An invite is a contract between a guest and a host that should be honoured once the RSVPs are in the mail. It’s your responsibility to find alternative accommodations at a nearby resort, and to send the link to your B-list guests. Once you’re all down there, arrange for transportation between the two spots, so no one feels like a wedding exile. Then, toss back a few umbrella drinks and enjoy the matrimonial mariachi band.){kind=link}
I was kind of sympathetic until your sign-off name. You are not allowed to be “RSVPeeved” when people you invite to a wedding say yes. I feel sorry for all of your guests — for being associated with such insufferable and ungrateful couple in the first place.
I feel no sympathy for you at all. You sent invites, and most of your invitees are attending your far-off wedding. You should be happy. Now grow up and find them some rooms.
It’s quite clear that you’re not very intelligent. You rented a 40 person villa and invited 60 people, how horrible that they RSVP’d ‘yes’ to a wedding they were invited to! Why not dis invite them? At this point why would they want to come anyways. You sound ungrateful and classless.